Premarital Therapy in Nashville

Getting Married? Find a Premarital Therapist in Nashville

First of all - kudos to you for looking for a professional therapist to do your premarital counseling. You’re already setting yourself up for success. In order to have a relationship that gets stronger with time, you’re smart to invest early.

Premarital counseling isn’t a one-size fits all process.

That’s because couples have different needs. Here are the three broad premarital categories we typically see:

“We just want to be prepared!”

You’re starting out, madly in love, and you want to make triple sure you’re doing everything you can in anticipation of the honeymoon phase wearing off. You’ve probably had some arguments, but nothing crazy. You just know you don’t want your parents' relationship. If you do want your parents relationship - can we meet your parents? That doesn’t happen often! No disrespect to your parents, of course.

“This isn’t our first rodeo!”

You’ve already been married, and the last thing you want is to unintentionally carry baggage from your previous relationship into this one. To make sure that doesn’t happen - you’re taking extra care. You know what you want, and you’re more comfortable in your own skin. But, you’ve been hurt, and it’s worth the investment to be intentional the second (or third) time around

“We love each other and we need help!”

You’re sure you want to be together, but you’ve hit lots of rough patches. You need professional help - not just cookie cutter premarital counseling. Whether this is your first marriage or not, you’re seeking something clinical and effective.

We’ve got you! Regardless of what category you fit into (and maybe you’re a combination of more than one), we have a specific process that we use to help your relationship build a solid foundation.

When you walk down the aisle, we want you to feel confident and secure in your love.

All our therapists use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) to do premarital counseling.

The model works and it’s backed up by more pages of evidenced-based interventions based on neuroscience and attachment science than you’ll ever want to read. We’re nerds and we do actually read the journal articles, but what really keeps us coming back is our clients.

This is what they say:

“I thought I knew everything about you - I had no idea the depth of what you think and feel. It makes me love you even more.”
“I’m so glad we went with this approach. Everything makes so much sense to me now. And, I have a better grasp of how to relate and keep our relationship strong.”
“Our therapist gave excellent guidance and was flexible when appropriate.”
“This premarital counseling far exceeded my expectations. It’s making me want to continue and do more - I see the value.”

Your relationship can feel the same way. It just requires working with a highly trained premarital therapist who has seen what you’ve been through before. (And yes, we happen to have many of them!)

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How Does Our Premarital Therapy In Nashville Work?

Your needs determine the length of your counseling.

If you fit in category A (“We just want to be prepared”), you can probably complete your therapy in 8-10 sessions. This is flexible, of course - if you’re really enjoying it, you can always ask for more sessions. Your therapist will help you identify any potential pattern you could get stuck in and you’ll learn how to tune into your vulnerabilities so you can effectively rely on each other. It’ll be like a master class for emotional and physical closeness.

If you fit in either category B or C (“This isn’t our first rodeo.” and/or “We love each other and we need help!”), you might need more sessions and the therapy might feel more like traditional couples therapy. The context matters, so your therapist will be very aware of any upcoming markers in your relationship (like your wedding day!). But, in these cases, therapy usually doesn’t end at the wedding. Your couples therapist will be someone you can always check in with. After premarital therapy, you’re still on a journey toward secure love.

Your premarital therapist will be prepared to help you with common issues, but also flexible to meet you where you are and help you navigate the problems that are unique to your relationship. More than anything, we want to help you build a strong foundation - that way you can navigate any storm life throws your way.