Relationship Goal Setting: Intentionality Is Sexy

1) Why is it important to set goals in a relationship? 

The very act of goal setting in a relationship is saying to your partner, "This is important to me. You are important to me." Just by being intentional, you're winning!

2) How can this help your relationship grow stronger? 

If both partners come to the table with curiosity and openness, this can actually be an opportunity to bond. Most growth happens by working through hard things. It's less important what goal you come to. The act of having the conversation at all (with open hearts) - that builds relationship confidence!

3) What are some of the best actionable relationship "goals" you can set together, and why? 

My favorite relationship goals focus on both the sexual and emotional bond. Romantic relationships need connection like a body needs water. The best way to connect is to get specific and tailor your goal to your relationship. Here are some examples of actionable goals that help with connection:

Sexual Connection Goal: Find a regular time (maybe once a week) to meet in the bed where you commit to "show up for your sexual selves." Get in the bed naked. Make sure there's no pressure or agenda - just see what happens!

Emotional Connection Goal: Find a regular time (maybe once a month) to go on a date. It doesn't have to be dinner. It can be walking through a favorite store or a park. The one rule is that you can't talk about kids or work.

Want more? Kelly Bourque, LMFT (owner of Red Therapy Group) was quoted in this Women’s Health article: 52 Relationship Goals that Will Strengthen Your Relationship

Setting goals is amazing, but sometimes that alone isn’t going to cut it. If your relationship needs more than an intentional sit down, consider a 3-day intensive. We get couples from all over the country flying in so they can level up their relationship!